Little Joys of Being Sober
Being sober to me, is a new found freedom. No longer in the bondage of addiction. No more lies, and stealing to feed my habit. No more hangovers in the morning. Waking up with a tremendous fear of what you might have done or said the night before, and the fear of facing the new day, and needing a drink or two or three to feel better. Sobriety is a Gift from God.
The little joys of being sober are waking in the morning grateful that I did not use yesterday and now having the faith and trust to stay sober today. Gaining a relationship with my Higher Power. Springtime, noticing the beautiful green trees, and the first crocus to bloom in spring. My family not having a fear of coming home, not knowing what to expect or not knowing what condition I would be in.
Having consistency in daily routines, without dread or fear. Realizing that it was not all about me, that I had hurt my family. Watching day by day as they start to build trust and confidence in me. Now feeling like part of the family instead of feeling it was them against me. Realizing what I have and being grateful for it. Being happy when my family all come home at the end of a day, and even feeling a little proud of my new life.
I now realize that there are opportunities ahead of me and never losing hope in things wished for. Being grateful knowing that I do not have to face my addictions alone I now have my Higher Power, which I call
God to help me when my burden feels heavy. Knowing that God loves me and that I am a child of God having faith that he will not abandon me. Knowing that God is Larger than any problem that can come my way.
Whoever made the statement "wake up and smell the roses" must have been an addict. Years of roses blooming and missing out on the smell of honeysuckle. Marveling in God's wonderful creations big and small. Knowing that God created me in his own image and is happy with his work.
Sobriety is not just putting down that drink or drug, yes that is the beginning, but action is now required. Sobriety is about growing and learning and changing your attitude. Being willing to help someone in need is definitely a moral booster, knowing that you are to be doing God's work here on earth. Realizing that you do have a purpose and to keep fine tuning my shortcomings.
I am not saying everyday is going to be easy. But being sober and clear minded to make decisions that must be addressed, and taking responsibility for my actions, and not regretting yesterday.
All these things are to me, the Little Joys of Being Sober and I am grateful everyday that God has given me the opportunity to live a Sober Lifestyle.
AJ
Monday, July 14, 2008
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Forgiving
Learning how to Forgive Others
Forgiving others that you feel have done you wrong is probably one of the hardest things to do. Harboring lousy feelings every time the thought comes to mind, robbing you of your joy. When these thoughts come forth I found that asking God to bless them rather than me taking revenge. It states in the bible "vengeance" is mine sayeth the Lord.
Resentments are a luxury to some but to us addicts, it is only bringing us closer to a drink or drug. God has forgiven you for your shortcomings, and wants you to forgive others as he has forgiven you. I believe that we harbor these resentments and wear them like badges. Poor me if only this didn't happen I would be able to move on. Nobody understands what I've been through.
God cannot bless you if you are carrying these resentments. Again, we need to ask our Higher power to take this burden from us and learn to not take it back. Most of the time we are so angry with a person or situation and those people don't have a clue that you are so angry with them. They go about their day, and you are letting the situation ruin yours.
Once you start learning how to forgive others, your burden will be a lot lighter. You won't have those lousy thoughts anymore and if they do arise, remember you have turned these issues over to your Higher power and refuse to let it back into your life. You will find yourself much happier when you learn this technique of forgiving others. Having a positive attitude and deciding that what ever happens to me today, that I am not going to let situations and people ruin my day.
There are a lot of situations each day that will jolt us if we let it. Just smile and remember that your higher power is in control and let him solve your problems. By taking them unto ourselves,
we then choose to be miserable and have the poor me's. Poor me, poor me, pour me another drink!
When you start learning to have a positive attitude you can reassess these situations and smile, knowing what God's will is for you. So the next time your driving and some speedster cuts you off and then takes off, take the positive role instead of the negative, and say to yourself, man that guy really needs to find a bathroom quickly. LOL
A friend of Dr.Bob and Bill,
Del
Forgiving others that you feel have done you wrong is probably one of the hardest things to do. Harboring lousy feelings every time the thought comes to mind, robbing you of your joy. When these thoughts come forth I found that asking God to bless them rather than me taking revenge. It states in the bible "vengeance" is mine sayeth the Lord.
Resentments are a luxury to some but to us addicts, it is only bringing us closer to a drink or drug. God has forgiven you for your shortcomings, and wants you to forgive others as he has forgiven you. I believe that we harbor these resentments and wear them like badges. Poor me if only this didn't happen I would be able to move on. Nobody understands what I've been through.
God cannot bless you if you are carrying these resentments. Again, we need to ask our Higher power to take this burden from us and learn to not take it back. Most of the time we are so angry with a person or situation and those people don't have a clue that you are so angry with them. They go about their day, and you are letting the situation ruin yours.
Once you start learning how to forgive others, your burden will be a lot lighter. You won't have those lousy thoughts anymore and if they do arise, remember you have turned these issues over to your Higher power and refuse to let it back into your life. You will find yourself much happier when you learn this technique of forgiving others. Having a positive attitude and deciding that what ever happens to me today, that I am not going to let situations and people ruin my day.
There are a lot of situations each day that will jolt us if we let it. Just smile and remember that your higher power is in control and let him solve your problems. By taking them unto ourselves,
we then choose to be miserable and have the poor me's. Poor me, poor me, pour me another drink!
When you start learning to have a positive attitude you can reassess these situations and smile, knowing what God's will is for you. So the next time your driving and some speedster cuts you off and then takes off, take the positive role instead of the negative, and say to yourself, man that guy really needs to find a bathroom quickly. LOL
A friend of Dr.Bob and Bill,
Del
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